Relationship goals, as defined by Dictionary.com are “various actions, or couples themselves, that display a depth of connection someone wants in their own love life. These “goals” can be heartfelt or playful, and the term is often used to comment on others’ social media.” The phrase “relationship goals” itself came from a surge across social media platforms in 2009 mostly as a hashtag #relationshipgoals, typically commenting on aspirational qualities in romantic couples. These relationship goals follow a larger social media trend of “goals” such as squad goals, relating to friendships and achievements. “Goals’ ‘ such as these are typically meant to be playful fun, such as comments on social media, when you see a cute couple in public, etc.
While most “relationship goals” in the social sense are playful fun, they are also a great way to set realistic expectations for you and your partner. What goals do you want in your relationship? Don’t think of them as something that is unattainable, but rather inspirational to your relationship. Setting relationship goals can be a very healthy way of improving your relationship with your partner.
A Few Examples of Relationship Goals
- Be 2, Not 1 – Becoming a single entity as a couple can sometimes be a dangerous trap to fall into. It’s necessary to remember the importance of maintaining your own independence and individuality while in a relationship with a partner, remember to focus on hobbies and interests that you both enjoy, separately.
- Make a Vow “In Sickness and in Health”– It is not always going to be easy, anyone in a relationship knows that. You will have bumps in the road and challenges to face together as a couple, as well as some of the greatest moments of your life together. It is a sign of strength in your relationship if you are able to handle both the good and the bad together!
- Create a Date Night Routine- Creating a habit such as a weekly or even monthly date night is definitely a #relationshipgoals to reach for. Date nights allow you to give undivided time to your partner, allow you to feel like you’re dating again if you’re out of that stage, and just making an effort towards your partner.
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